Thursday, May 5, 2011

It's a BOY!!! We have a referral!

Wow, there, I said it.  Yes, it happened!  Shew, I have been holding that in for waaaayy too long!   But I had to bring the blog "current" to be fair.   And a bit for the suspense!  :)   The OCD email checking paid off huge in February.  We received a referral of a baby boy!  He is super cute but due to privacy reasons I cannot post any pictures, yet.  But believe me, he is CUTE!!  We have decided to name him Kyle Patrick.   The name game was a huge debate here....I liked Kyle Matthew, but I was vetoed.  Chris wanted Kyle Dillon, but I wasn't liking that.  We decided, just yesterday that it will be Kyle Patrick.   I can tell you this, he is now 20 months old and we just received a couple new pictures since his referral  and he is changing so much already.  Let's see, what else....besides the obvious, that we can't wait to bring him home, we think he's cute, our family loves his hair and he has a cute smile.  One of his baby-ish younger pictures has him with a good amount of thin, baby fine hair growing in, very adorable.  The next picture shows he got a hair cut and it's all spikey on top, he doesn't even need any hair gel for that look.  The recent pictures show his hair looking alot thicker.
The Spikey look-no gel required  :)
Not sure if this counts as a picture, but it's some serious hair.    I think his smile is the best, you can even see a few teeth especially when you zoom in about a zillion percent.  Chris saw me doing that and couldn't figure out what I was doing, or why, then walked away shaking his head after I told him.  He thought I was nuts, but a mom needs to check these things.    In one of  his more recent pictures, he looks like he is just going to take off running.  I have a feeling there will be a lot of cardio in our future chasing him!  And our dog will be pretty tired running with him too.

We received his referral on a Friday, and I had a few questions.  So it was scrambling to reach a couple of doctors so they could read his paperwork.  What a looooong weekend that was.  Lots of talking and discussions, but I think we already knew, he was for us!  We contacted the agency, we ACCEPT and let's get things started.  We had to update our home study, quick one page update, and we waited for orphanage approval.  We received approval, and then more agency paperwork and dossier certifications.  This is where is got a bit crazy and it was another adventure, again.  

Those familiar with international adoption know that you must apostle (certify) your notary's signature.
We put together all of our documents, 21 of them, to be certified.  Off to Trenton, NJ's state capital we head.  I tried to call ahead, to confirm amounts, method of payment, hours, etc.; no one answered the phone.  I checked on line to the website for this government office and, it changed since I looked before.  Since no one answered the phone I couldn't confirm the change.  After an hour of driving, with cash in hand, we arrive and take a number.  There were only two 'customers'  there, us and another man, taking care of similar things.  Big glass window, little peep hole to talk through, and a couple of women behind the counter.  It's 9:25 am and I'm thinking, we are good so far, this shouldn't take long.  The other gentleman takes care of things and off he goes.  Feeling a bit better I relax a minute.  Bad idea.   Both women walk away from the counter...?  Can't be break already could it?  Ten minutes later, one woman, Miss J returns and call us to the window, no number checked or needed apparently.  I explain what we are doing, what is needed and how many documents we have.  She politely asked when we would like to pick them up, I immediately want to say, in 30 minutes, but that wasn't an option.  These were our options.......one hour service was the regular fee of $5.00 per document plus the "rush" fee of $1,000.00 per document totaling $1,005.00 per document.  Go ahead read it again, slowly, yes, $1,005.00 PER DOCUMENT!!  I can not repeat or post the thoughts that were going through my head at this point, it is NOT G-rated!!   I'm sure anyone with sticker shock could relate.  But if that's too much you could pay $500.00 for the two hour service plus the initial $5.00 per document for the bargain price of $505.00 per document.  Holy Smokes, people, are they serious????  Yes, they were.  We opted for the basic $5.00 per document with a 24 hour turn around.  Miss J must have noticed the color draining from my face because she promised that if we come back tomorrow morning, at about the same time, she would have them finished.  We agreed, paid the regular fee, and still in shock, we left. Upon reaching the car and thinking and debating if was really strong enough to take on Miss J, but realizing that's why the glass window with only a peep hole was installed, I thought better of that plan.  She was nice enough and reminded me of Aunt Jemima.  Then as if I was slapped upside the head, (thanks mom) I realized she over charged me by $100.00!!!!  Driving home I'm going down the check list and knew the amount was wrong.  I don't have my documents so I can't double check each one, so I had to wait.  Oh, man, it's gonna be a loooonnnggg night for me.  Every imaginable thought, scenario, or natural disaster went through my mind.  I really did check the news that night for anything happening.  Overload worry and panic was an understatement.  Boy, have things changed since the last time I was in that office. Processing Emily's paperwork was $5 per document, but they did it in a couple of hours.  We waited. Oh, and the phones, they didn't have voice mail to leave a message.  They were part of the recent cut backs for the state.  What??  A couple of people paying those outrageous prices could have covered the cost of voice mail for I guess six months, right?  And the web site updates happened on February 1st, 2011.  Figures.  Conceding to the fact that this could only happen to me and only in New Jersey, I went to bed.

Next morning, up bright and early like a normal day, kids off to school, we set off, back to Trenton.  Our plan was to go to Trenton, pick up the papers, fight for our $100, find a Kinkos in that city (I had to have copies before these documents leave my hands again), and head to New York City for our local TECO office.   What's that saying about the best set plans???   What a true saying......

12 comments:

Sarah said...

$1,005.00 per document?!?!?!?!?!?!? (sound of a thump as I pass out and hit the floor)

Lisa said...

Overjoyed for you my friend ~ its been such a long journey and now that you can gaze upon your darling babe's face all day long, THAT part is over ( blessedly so!) and another part begins.

The part where offices wish to charge families OUTLANDSIH prices per document....boy that boils my blood.... but on to the happy news!! :)

YIPPEEEEEEEE!! Got my happy dance going for you and simply could not be more tickled and delighted!!

Can't wait to see that face, but loved the hair ~ and it IS great hair!! :)

Relish this joyous time of antcipation; the name is perfect and you deserve cloud nine after holding it in since Feb.!! wow!

Hugs!

Tami and Bobby Sisemore Family said...

woohoo! LOVE the hair! Wonder if he is Jeremiah's brother! No matter HOW LONG Jeremiah's hair gets it stands up and no gel needed! LOL

QingLu Mama said...

OOOOOOHHHHHHH My Goodness!!!! I am soooooo overjoyed for you guys! I can't wait to see the face attached to that darling bit of hair (sure...no "hair envy" over here...

But really, I am so thrilled and excited and can't believe you finally have you baby's referral! What a long wait...

And yes, I didn't want to tell you this next wait is just as hard as the wait you just endured...only in a different way. So I truly can't wait for this court process to move along and for you to be on Taiwan soil meeting Kyle Patrick! And call if there is venting needed, I know how much you were there for me for those last crazy weeks!

Huge hugs to all of you!!!!!
J

Robin said...

Congratulations!!!! What exciting news. I am so happy for you and your family. I LOVE the spikey hair. It just calls outto have yourhands run thrugh it. I am sure you cannot wait. Holy smokes what an ordeal for your documents. That is just ridiculous! I know that gettingg the documents apostilized is one the the more stresssful times with the paperwork. So glad it is doen and overwith. Happy Mother's Day!

The Raudenbush Family said...

Congrats! From the picture here, he's looking cute already!

I just found your blog and wanted to direct you to The Sparrow Fund (www.sparrow-fund.org). We're actively looking for bloggers to post about who we are and what we're doing to get the word out to adoptive families. Let me know if you would be interested in helping!
Kelly

Lynette said...

Now that is hair that a mom can be proud of, hee hee. So cute! We are with Holt. Just starting out. Doing pre-home-study paper work. I wonder if we will have the same social worker you had since you said she came via Holt? We live in NJ in Monmouth County. Where are you? Looking forward to following your journey, and hope you will check us out too. :) http://www.barefootandadopting.blogspot.com/
Blessings, and congratulations!

Krista said...

So excited for you. I'm glad you posted as I've checked your blog tons lately. Yeah, love referrals. Looks like your little guy is exactly the same age as my Lacey. Would love to chat with you if you still have my email.

Krista

LaLa said...

Ok..when you checked my much much outdated blog..why didn't you at least tell me to jump over!! CONGRATS on your new son!! I know he is super adorable!! I can't wait to see more of him : )

Those fees tick me off....what a rip off!! I hope you got your $100 back : )

Sarah said...

Congrats on the match!!! Waiting has been so difficult for us. My husband was so furious for you and would have loved to take on Miss J. He was ready to fly right over. What a rough day. I'm sure you keep reminding yourself, as we do, that it will all be over soon and worth the entire rollercoaster of events!

Jen said...

Omg congrats! How super exciting..... Can't wait to see pix of him when the time comes. So happy for you all.
Can't wait to here more !

Jen said...

Congrats to you and your family! So exciting.
Can't wait to hear more up coming journey of Kyle and your family.

Sooooo exciting ...

Hugs...